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Why I stopped taking insurance for couples therapy
I’ve been on panel with a single insurance carrier (Blue Cross and Blue Shield of Texas), for several years. In June of 2018, I decided to no longer accept insurance for couples therapy. This was not a decision I made lightly. I knew my clients would feel some...
Stress: A Hidden Epidemic
Stress is the single most common presenting complaint for men starting counseling. Everyone feels stress from time to time. When it becomes overwhelming, or saturates your work and home life, it can cause a lot of problems. Chronic stress can literally shorten your...
Do you (or does someone you love) need Anger Management?
Maybe you recognize that you get angry over things you shouldn't, or that your reactions are bigger than the situation warrants. Or perhaps you were surprised to be told you are "too angry," or that you need anger management. Even if you're convinced you're not an...
Is Depression Hiding in Your Anger?
Let’s face it. Most people don’t want to be in therapy. In my practice, I see a lot of men who are there at the request (or insistence) of a loved one who got tired of their irritability, pessimism, resentment or angry outbursts. They’re told: “You...
What is Relational Anger?
Most of the men who come to see me for anger management haven’t been sent by the courts. They’ve been sent by their wives and girlfriends, who are tired of being on the receiving end of flashes or torrents of anger, hostility, and contempt. Somehow, these men are...
The Art and Science of Love: The Research Behind Gottman Method Couples Therapy
I heard a story that Dr John Gottman didn’t set out at first to study marriages. He was, in fact, actively engaged in research of emotional and personality development in children in the 1970’s. So the story goes, he was getting frustrated that his experiments (with...
The Sound Relationship House
The Gottman Institute’s research shows that to make a relationship last, couples must become better friends, learn to manage conflict, and create ways to support each others hopes for the future. Drs John and Julie Gottman have shown how couples can accomplish this by...